Bite Size Memoir is taking a break! The summer is a hectic time for many of us and I’m having a doozy of a time this year. Rather than do a bad or minimal job of managing your wonderful and personal contributions, I’ve decided it would be better to take a few weeks off whilst I take my own summer holiday, run myself ragged with the teenage taxi and a whole host of other ‘stuff’ too mundane to mention.
Meanwhile if you have time yourself over the next few weeks to muse on a few things, I would be interested to hear ideas and suggestions on anything related to Bite Size Memoir including:
1. How do you think it has been so far?
-What have you liked most / found easiest ?
-What have you liked least / found hardest ?
2. Are there suggestions you would like to make?
-Are the prompts recovering interesting memories for you?
-What do you think of the current constraints? (150 words etc)
-What topics are you itching most to get to?
3. How well does the weekly frequency suit you?
-Would you rather more/less commitment?
-Would fortnightly ruin your rhythm?
-Would the occasional ‘photo only’ post (Prompts like for example “My Worst Hair”) work for you?
If it helps you think about what I hoped we might achieve here you might want to go back and read my original intentions and also consider the few thoughts and quotes below. If you’re new here and have stumbled upon my blog hoping to join in, here’s a round up of the topics we’ve covered so far: School at Seven, Jinks and Japes, Magic and Fairy Tales, Sports Day, Camping, First Jobs, Childhood Illness, Dressing Up, Cycling, 10 out of 10 and Holiday Reads
So, what is memoir?
“Memoir (from French: mémoire: memoria, meaning memory or reminiscence), is a literary nonfiction genre. More specifically, it is a collection of memories that an individual writes about moments or events, both public or private that took place in the author’s life. The assertions made in the work are understood to be factual. While memoir has historically been defined as a subcategory of autobiography since the late 20th century, the genre is differentiated in form, presenting a narrowed focus. Like most autobiographies, memoirs are written from the first-person point of view. An autobiography tells the story of a life, while memoir tells a story from a life, such as touchstone events and turning points from the author’s life.” (source Wikipedia)
It is my view that good memoir therefore tells a ‘story from a life’ with all the associated human factors. Of course there may be reason to edit, soften or avoid a few elements but to be able to lend the reader your experience – to enable them to perhaps step into your shoes or at least ry them on for size – one must explore or show the emotions and thought that accompany the story of that life.
It seems others might agree:
“A memoir forces me to stop and remember carefully. It is an exercise in truth. In a memoir, I look at myself, my life, and the people I love the most in the mirror of the blank screen. In a memoir, feelings are more important than facts, and to write honestly, I have to confront my demons.” – Isabel Allende
“By definition, memoir demands a certain degree of introspection and self-disclosure: In order to fully engage a reader, the narrator has to make herself known, has to allow her own self-awareness to inform the events she describes.” – Caroline Knapp
“I think many people need, even require, a narrative version of their life. I seem to be one of them. Writing memoir is, in some ways, a work of wholeness.” – Sue Monk Kidd
One of the most challenging aspects of writing a memoir is finding your own voice, and you should be very careful about being influenced by someone else’s voice. – Jeannette Walls
September 9, 2014 at 2:10 am
Welcome back Lisa. I’m ready! I was just here the other day, checking I hadn’t missed any new prompts – I’m still playing catch up, started a draft yesterday for ‘first job’, boy did that bring back memories! I hope you enjoyed your break and decided on the future format. 🙂
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September 8, 2014 at 8:18 pm
I’m back! Who’s up for some bite size memoir ? I’ve missed you 😀
http://wp.me/p45xAV-qs
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July 31, 2014 at 5:38 pm
I already miss your prompts, Lisa, they were one of the highlights of my week. I understand though about needing to take a break and I look forward to when you return. I too don’t think it is necessary for the recap and doing a pingback or just having the link in your comments I believe is enough. That way everyone gets visited by others instead of reading their entries on your blog.
Have a great rest of the summer and I look forward to your return!
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July 31, 2014 at 6:00 pm
Thanks Morgan – I’ll certainly have a think about that. I worry though that some of those pantsters might not get around to it without a deadline to meet a compilation! I won’t name the last-minute lovelies but if they have thoughts about this particular issue, I welcome them 🙂
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August 7, 2014 at 10:55 am
Thanks for playing catch-up – This one’s awful and brilliant at the same time. Lxx
http://morgandragonwillow.com/2014/08/sitting-with-courage-bitesizememoir.html
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July 31, 2014 at 11:05 am
While the cat’s away..
.. the mice might play
https://christinejrandall.wordpress.com/2014/07/31/bite-size-memoirs-no-2-3-and-4/
😺
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August 5, 2014 at 7:30 am
Tsk, tsk, you didn’t have to do that!
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August 5, 2014 at 1:24 pm
😀 And I see there’s more! Lxx
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July 31, 2014 at 5:40 am
I’m back to say what I think about your questions, Lisa. I think you should do the prompts however you like – photo, weekly, fortnightly. I think you should leave the onus on us to provide a link or pingback in your comments to our post. A full post compilation will get out of hand as the number of participants grow. You can compile the urls at the end of the month, if you felt you should. Just my thoughts. It should be fun for you too. 😀
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July 31, 2014 at 11:07 am
Thank you Christine – that’s another liberating piece of positive feedback. Thanks too for playing catch-up on some of the previous prompts – It’s great to have you on board 🙂
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July 30, 2014 at 1:59 pm
Hi, Lisa, hope you’re enjoying your break. I’m posting my reflections now because otherwise I doubt I’ll remember to do them. I don’t think you should take advice from an anti-memoirist like me, except in the sense that others have mentioned in doing it whatever way it suits you. Don’t let this take over other parts of your life that might be more important.
My own experience is that I’ve joined in more than I thought I would but remain unconverted to the genre. However, I’ve noticed I’ve had lots more memoiry thoughts in relation to Charli Mills’s flash fiction prompts than with the memoir, as I have explored in my latest post about fruit:
http://annegoodwin.weebly.com/annecdotal/the-country-house-meets-friendship-betrayed-the-long-shadow-by-mark-mills-with-fruit-for-afters
Impossible to tell whether this is due to the nature of the prompt (in being quite general) or merely my discomfort with memoir.
It’s inevitable, however, that different people will have different aspects of their lives they don’t want to share publicly – another reason for going with what interests you and others will join in or not as suits both their mood and other time commitments.
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July 31, 2014 at 11:08 am
Thanks Anne 🙂
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July 28, 2014 at 2:34 pm
Will get back to you on this after my break Lisa…have enjoyed it immensely and can’t wait to start up again in September. See you soon 🙂 xx
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July 27, 2014 at 12:29 pm
Enjoy the break Lisa. You deserve it. I agree with wantonwordflirt – the project is yours to direct how you will. It obviously meets a need in people because you have so many joining in with so many great reflections and memoirs to share. They will or they won’t join in regardless of what you do. You must make it suit your needs first! That sounds very bossy now from someone who doesn’t give advice. Sorry, but I think it’s up to you. The feedback can inform you but the decision is yours.
Have fun!
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July 28, 2014 at 9:31 am
Thank you Norah! You grounded people are always good at bringing me back to my original objectives – it makes it an easier thing to consider – not bossy at all – just a very sound reminder. Thank you 💜
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July 29, 2014 at 11:32 am
🙂 Happy deciding. I’m sure the solution will come to you while you are not thinking about it during your break!
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July 26, 2014 at 11:27 pm
Have a wonderful break! You have established meaningful relationships with people through your blog. We all need balance and breaks. I’ll give your questions some thoughtful feedback (in a mini-break of my own, just cruising the back roads while the Hub is home and taking much needed time to read–inspired by your last prompt). I love what you are doing here for memoir and never would have considered it if it weren’t for your bites!
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July 28, 2014 at 9:24 am
Thank you Charli, I will! (I am already.. amazing what dropping a couple of deadlines for a little while does!) – You enjoy that mini-break too – I can only imagine – enviously – the wide open space you must have to cruise along those back roads with not a soul in sight. Thank you for joining in with your bites of memoir – I love the insights we get into quite different ‘country’ life and begin to understand some of the influences in your creative writing.
And thank you for showing us the way at Carrot Ranch. It still amazes me how the on-line community we have around us makes every task companiable. I’m making time in my break to read Mary Carroll Moore and digest your Tips for Writers so I hit the ground running after the holidays! 🙂 Lisa xx
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July 26, 2014 at 6:52 pm
Hi Lisa! I think it’s a good idea to take a short break. I’m sure most of us will be away or having familly and friends time during the holidays.
Thank you for organising, summarising, editing, and commenting, for all of us. 🙂
I’ll be answering your questions shortly in more detail, but my overall balance is that my participation has been inspiring (for me, I mean), and I’ve had the opportunity of ‘meeting’ and sharing experiences with other wonderful bloggers / writers. I never imagined it was going to be such fun, when I started out about a month ago, or that I was going to make so many ‘friends’!
Thank you, and have a great holiday!
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July 28, 2014 at 9:07 am
Hi Luccia – Thank you for such lovely feedback. It’s really warming to hear you have got so many different things out of Bite Size and ‘met’ some lovely people along the way 🙂 Lisa xx
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July 26, 2014 at 1:12 pm
Lisa I hope all your summer projects pan out well plus hope you get some time to relax and enjoy the summer. Like Geoff I will get back with my reflection on BSM but I will tell you that I have enjoyed it. The two hardest for me was jinks and japes and 10 out of 10. Apart from these two the minute I saw the prompt I knew what I would write. Although I love reading them all together I have thought with so many and the numbers now growing it must be a mammoth task for you compiling them each week. Perhaps that is an area that you could save some time. I go to the posts and read them anyway the difference would be that you don’t see the range together. Anyway just a thought.
If I had the quote with me I would add it here as it is another take on memoir. I shall have to come back with it. Cheers Irene
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July 26, 2014 at 4:32 pm
Thanks Irene. It does take a surprising number of hours to sort a compilation out but I keep thinking it’s my perfectionism and “I’ll be better next time” – good thought – we’ll see what others think. I could experiment with WordPress polls! 😀
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July 26, 2014 at 5:26 am
P.S. As far as feedback – my first thought is do what you want to do, organize it the way suits you best / easiest. Of course you may lose a few participants , but you may gain others. As you know you cannot ever please everyone, so please yourself Lisa!
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July 26, 2014 at 9:06 am
Thanks Suzanne – that’s very liberating! Something I probably needed reminding of too! 😀
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July 26, 2014 at 5:23 am
I echo Geoff’s comments. I understand your need to take a break. As you have noticed as much as I wanted to post the last couple weeks, obligations – the good , the bad and the ugly – kept me away.
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July 26, 2014 at 9:05 am
I think there are a few of us finding the same! Hope the ugly gets better looking soon, love Lisa xx
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July 26, 2014 at 12:51 am
Since I’ve just joined in, Lisa, your break will give me a chance to catch up. I’m finding it hard to keep to 150 words and so I’ll probably end of directing my post to a full page of memories. Love the range of prompts. 🙂
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July 26, 2014 at 9:04 am
Oh Christine ! Some total puppetry my end – I’ve now added your lovely bite about the Hobbit to Holiday Reading. Sorry! You can see why I need a break – I’m running around like a headless chicken and my attention to detail goes right out the window!
Back very soon, but meanwhile let me know what you think (apart from the rubbish curator! 😐 ) Lisa xx
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July 25, 2014 at 5:19 pm
Have a wonderful holiday Lisa (I have always liked that word so much more than the rather clinical American “vacation.”) And thanks for your reflective pre-break piece on the memoir genre. My own summer has been so busy wrapping things up on my client’s memoir, and following up on other writing projects, that I have been pulled away from my own memoir blogging. Thanks for inspiring me to return today. A few responses to your questions:
1) I was delighted when I stumbled across your BSM challenge. It’s a great idea to throw out a prompt each week. The topics do not always immediately engage me, but that only compels me to stretch myself as a writer, plumb the depths of my memory, and find connections between the prompt and that ephemeral spirit that makes me tick. So, what I like the most is the variety of the challenges; what I like least is my own problem, simply being unable to respond weekly.
2) The prompts don’t always immediately connect, as I said above, but I think just about any topic is capable of inspiring a good reflection. I once responded to a one-word prompt of “watermelon” and was amazed at what came up. Yes, 150 words seems right; otherwise it would not be bite-size but rather “biting off more than we (and readers) can chew” in a format like this. And as for topics, I don’t wish to go against the grain or spirit of your blog, but I think darker topics can inspire beautiful writing…disappointment, death, betrayal, epiphanies about our own behavior or way of thinking….added to the mix now and then….
3) As mentioned, I find it hard to keep up with it weekly, but your regular circle seems pretty good at it so I am happy to dip in when I can…For me “fortnightly” (I think only you Brits actually use this word in daily life 🙂 — love it!) might get more action out of me, in the writing and reading. And I love the idea of an occasional photo post challenge.
Finally, I loved the quotes at the end. Good reminders of how I was attracted to the genre in the first place.
Enjoy your break!
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July 26, 2014 at 8:26 am
Hi Jeanne – thank you for all these ideas and the encouragement too. I shall see what others come back with but I share some of your concerns, inklings and directions! I’m glad you connect with these quotes about memoir. There others of course doubting and unkind but I love to delve into my ‘self’ and other’s ‘selves’ to understand a little further. I love the connection.
I’m glad you’re busy with your various writing projects – you inspire me to imagine there’s more after this one personal one. Planning on enjoying my break to be refreshed to start with firm priorities! It is sometimes very good to stand back from things at times. Thank you 🙂 Lisa xx
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July 25, 2014 at 2:42 pm
I’ll try and give you some meaningful feedback Lisa. Enjoy the break. It’s been grand so far…
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July 25, 2014 at 3:47 pm
Thanks Geoff – I hope to keep your funny escapades entertaining the rest of us ! Lxx
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